Step 1: Set expectations

Carefully explain the desired behavior you'd like to see exhibit. For instance, you could ask your child to pick up their toys before snack time, or you could ask that the child  play quietly for 15 minutes while you cook lunch. The expectations you set should be sensible and attainable. Finally, be sure you've  set your child up  for success, making things too easy, may not give them as much satisfaction. Think about start will small goals and then raise the bar along the way.

Step 2: Choose a reasonable reward that your child values

Naturally, all reward can't be a day at Chuck E Chees  or a pizza and movie night. It's  crucial to offer rewards that can be attained on a day by day basis. For instance, offer an extra bedtime story or even delayed bedtime as potential rewards. Older children who are beginning to learn the value of money will appreciate small monetary rewards. Other reasonable rewards could be a favorite snack before bed or a favorite dish for dinner.

Step 3: Keep it simple

Whatever task-reward combination you choose, try and keep it simple and balanced. A sizable reward for a small task may set unrealistic expectations in the future, which may lead to more trouble than benefit. Rewards should be deliverable throughout the day, so it’s helpful to avoid getting into the habit of trying to top each one with something bigger and better. This may also help your kids learn to appreciate the little things in life.

Step 4: Keep up your end of the bargain

Hold up your end of the bargain with your child and deliver the agreed upon reward as promised. Make sure it’s done in a timely manner to create a strong bond between good behavior and benefit.  On the other hand, if your child does not deliver on his end of the deal, it’s important to stand firm in not giving the reward anyway. There may be disappointment, but stay strong. You’re teaching the importance of follow-through and the meaning of commitment. 

Step 5: Keep it consistent